Double standards, I just don't understand why we set them in society, but most importantly in relationships. They really suck and I wish relationships would become equal.
The most common one I know of is if a boy has sex with more than two girls, he is praised. He's "the man", but when a girl has sex with more than two guys she's a whore. Why is that? Why can't they both be whores? Because to me they are. This situation happens even when a girl is just "talking" to a guy, she is a whore.
I'll give a few examples of my own relationship. One standard is he likes to say I spend his money, but in reality I don't even ask for his money. I mean if you are willing to pay, why am I going to stop you? Then he gets mad when I want to spend my own money on something I really want. It is just confusing.
Another situation is when he'll say something stupid that makes me mad. It's this stupid thing he got off a Vine video. This girl on there had a superman cape on and said "Now you're super mad!" It irritates me because he does it all the time. So me, being the person that I am, I will use the same thing on you when you least expect it and that's exactly what I did. He was really "super mad" *in my superman voice* after that, but oh well. It is many other things he'll say and get mad when I say the EXACT thing to him. It is hilarious because he doesn't have a reason why it is wrong for me to say the same thing he said to me. I just want to make him feel like I felt.
The last and overall most ANNOYING problem is having guy and girl friends. Jamarius is a friendly and funny guy. Sometimes he gets a little too friendly. I try not to say anything about it, because flirting is in his blood. His daddy is such a huge flirt and likes to start conversations with people, just like him. When I was not attending Memphis yet, these "best friends" that were girls popped up. I don't trust that "best friend" deal. It especially annoyed me because he expected me not to have guy friends. How unfair is that?
I have a true hate for double standards, but I know they won't go away. It is just how our society is set up.
Yes I agree with you. It is sad, but we must accept this and move on. It's our only option, haha.
ReplyDeleteExactly! It has the be the dumbest thing ever and it sucks that they truely exist everyday! It's okay though Chels, You'll push through it!
ReplyDeletehaha Chelsea, I know what you mean... and honestly the thing you said about your boyfriend saying something that he things is funny but then you say it back to him, unexpectedly. I am married and this still happens... I think Amber is right we must accept it and move on which is really hard!
ReplyDeleteDouble standards suck butt, man. -.- But we all gotta push through. We all have to deal with them no matter where we are. I'm very positive that there's a way for us to overcome that double standard system that society has built for us. We just gotta do what we do best and not let this bs hold us down. Keep loving. Keep blogging. Keep being Chelsea. Ignore those double standards.
ReplyDeleteI totally agree! I don't understand why things are so different but I guess that's just how our generation is.
ReplyDeleteDouble standards are socially-constructed bullsh*t...don't give up on moving beyond them!
ReplyDeleteS/o to y'all for the comments. Im pushing through them!
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