My final freshman seminar post

Yes, there is community on social media. In my opinion, it is the reason we have so many different social media sites. Every website has a purpose and an audience which could be the community and you not even have known it, because you were not on social media. There can be many personal or business relationships made. Facebook has special groups you can join and people invite you to be in. Twitter has the option to make lists of people who could possibly associate in because they have something in common.

Personally, I am in a few communities. One, being for a former teammate of mine who was killed in a car crash two years ago. I am in groups for the University of Memphis, such as Rawls, Frosh Camp, and events on campus. On twitter I am in the social media community. Once I get further into my major, I plan on getting into a community for Nursing students. This would be a large and strong community and very helpful.

My final post... Maybe?

This blog was just for my English class and I can say it has been a new experience. Since this is my last post, I just wanted to thank everybody who has commented on my posts and gave me wonderful advice. It has been really useful. It was fun to write for y'all and let y'all in my life for a while. If you are going to continue to blog, let me know. I really liked some of y'all blogs and would be interested in reading more in the future. Hey, you never know I just might continue blogging. Thank y'all for reading!

-Chelsea Jones

Match.com versus Zoosk.com

Online Dating Sites: Match.com versus Zoosk.com

            If you are single and looking for a companion that can be potentially a husband or wife in the future, I’ve got a way just for you. Just finding someone at the bar or getting your friend to hook you up is not “in” anymore. Technology is flourishing and online dating is the reason people are finding love. The two websites I decided to compare and contrast are Match and Zoosk. While both attract single people across the country, Match caters more towards the older crowd and has a simple design. Zoosk is more bubbly and exciting for the younger generation and is not as easy to navigate.

            The great thing about both Match and Zoosk are that I could find what I was looking for. It did not matter if I was a single man looking for a woman, a single woman looking for a man, a single man looking for a man, or a single woman looking for a woman. They gave me the option to choose right when the site loaded up. I was also allowed to search by age and find local singles within a certain mile radius of me on both sites.

            Signing up was fairly simple for both Match and Zoosk. I had to put an e-mail, password, username, and background information. Match was very detailed and asked not only my background information, but my features, social status, values, favorites, and hobbies. On the other hand, Zoosk did not go into as much detail. This is important because it makes your profile more personal and someone looking at your profile may have some of the same interest you do. The inconvenience in signing up for Zoosk was that I had to confirm my e-mail address.

            Online dating has gotten a bad rap for catfishing and rapes that have happened while meeting a person from online. A positive factor is both websites give online dating tips for safety reasons. On Match, the tips were found at the bottom on the homepage. Zoosk sent their tips for online dating through the confirmation e-mail. This is an important factor because a lot of people are trying online dating for the first time and are not exactly sure what to do.

            The design of Match is generic and a tad boring and simple. It is very similar to Facebook. On the contrary, Zoosk is cute and fun, and attracts young people like me. One thing I did notice was that they were both used blue, which is common on social media sites. The menu was placed differently on both sites. Match’s was at the very top and was easy to access, while Zoosk’s menu was on the far left side. The fonts were similar, but unalike. Match was more Arial font and Zoosk was more Georgia font. The design shows us why older people are more attracted to Match and young people are attracted to Zoosk.

            The usability was reasonably painless for both. Zoosk options were sometimes confusing and I had to click on some of them to figure out what it was about. In my opinion, Zoosk is more for the younger people who are technologically sharp. The older generation that is not too wise about technology would understand how to navigate Match easier than Zoosk. Young people can learn new things and want to learn new things, while the older people just like it to be simple and know what to do without any help. It also helps that both websites uploaded fast with anything I clicked on to help the impatient people of all ages.

            Match and Zoosk are both consistent with their purpose of hopefully finding a person’s true love. They both allowed me to basically build my perfect man. From the way I want him to look and his social status. Zoosk does not accomplish this feature as well as Match, but they both have that option. Of course, as with many other websites, there is a choice to message people. Communicating is key when it comes to building a relationship. Match allows you to see who viewed your profile and it allows the person to “poke or wink” at you, which is normally a sign of interest. You could choose to poke or wink back at them. This could spark a conversation between two people. Although Zoosk does not have such a unique feature, they do have their own instant messenger system called Zoosk Messenger.

            One of the most annoying things on a website is the advertising. Both websites advertised in different ways. Zoosk advertised through ways to get “coins” on the site. These “coins” are used to enhance your experience on the site. The only way I could earn the coins were by completing surveys and accepting offers by a variety of vendors. While on the other hand, Match had ads that were noticeable, but because they had nothing to do with the purpose of the site, I did not pay a lot of attention. I saw an advertisement for some boots the first time I was on there. Another ad said “Click here and take the personality assessment” on Chemistry.com. I clicked on it and Chemistry.com is the sister site for Match.

            An important factor that makes or breaks a website is its functionality. After using both, I felt as if Match functioned better than Zoosk, because it was simple and easy to find what I was looking for under the main titles they gave. In contrast, Zoosk made me think a little bit harder on what I should click on to figure out what I was looking for. Neither site had many links, but when it did a new window did not pop up, which is a plus. Both sites had basic search options, but Match had the best way to search because they went in depth. The basic option to search on either site was to search for people by age and in a certain mile radius. Match was unique in their search process, because I could do a custom search. This custom search helped me figure out what I did and did not want in a future partner. It was various questions for his appearance, background, values, interests, and lifestyle. Zoosk had nothing like this, the most unique item that they had was a carousel. It is a game and when I played it had a picture of a random photo of someone on the site. I could choose yes, maybe, or no. If I choose no it would go to the next person like a carousel. On the other hand, Match made it simple and put two pictures side by side and asked “Who do you like?”

            Being a member of either site had its advantages and disadvantages. There are two levels of membership. I am a member, who signs up and only get to search for people. I could message people and communicate only if I became a subscriber. Basically, if I were to buy a subscription, I could do anything I wanted to do on the website. The subscriptions for both websites are reasonable, but it all depends on how long you plan on subscribing. Zoosk prices are $29.95 for one month, $19.98 for three months, $12.49 for six months, or make one easy payment and not have to worry about paying for however long the subscription was for. Match is cheaper, since all their subscriptions are under $20.

            It is excellent when websites can function with other social media and make a connection to each other. Zoosk was efficient, because it gave me the option to sign up through my Facebook or Twitter. In contrast, Match was on many different social sites. I could go like them on Facebook or go follow them on Blogger, Twitter, Instagram, or Pininterest. Both also had a mobile app. Apps are an easier way to just click that one thing instead of having to go to the web browser on a smartphone and typing their website in the URL.

            In my own opinion, Match was the better site. A few reasons why: 1. They asked more details about me and what I wanted my partner to be like. 2. The way I could customize a search and connect with others in unique ways. 3. The most fantastic thing is their guarantee to hopefully find me a match. However, Zoosk does have its own positives. It has fun games to play and will send e-mails, text messages, iPhone/iPad and Android notifications. Since both are relationship matching websites, they do accomplish their purpose to attract single men and women and help them find their perfect partner. The absolute worst thing about both websites is that you have to subscribe to actually enjoy your experience on either website. Overall, after researching both online dating sites, I might give Match a try in the future. I’ll know exactly what I want in a man by then and will be able to search for one by all the qualities I like. Online dating sites can be very useful, you just have to be careful.

Freshman Seminar Post

By being in the Social Media Fresh Connections Freshman Seminar have made me realize how Social Media can make or break your career. I can use it not only for entertainment purposes, but to help find things like internships and jobs. I have learned about Hootsuite and how it can group people together so you can focus on certain subjects. Before I got in this class I had never heard of it. I learned that now employers will evaluate your social media first before they even interview you. The has had an impact on the way I use social media. I used to curse in every single tweet and now I don't as often. I was really nonchalant and did not realize it would affect me later. Although I have not used social media for a job or internship, I plan on doing that real soon.

Random Thoughts

My question for this week is what are you supposed to do if you feel as if your significant other is falling out of love with you? What are the signs? What do you do? How do you try and get over your feelings? Is there something wrong with you?
I think if a person begins to feel this way you can tell because they never want to be with you or don't tell you they love you anymore. Really I believe you should approach them and ask them how they feel and tell them how you feel. If you find out your feelings are stronger for them than their feelings are for you then just forget them. I knw that is easier said than done, but people just grow apart sometimes. You can't think of it as something being wrong with you. You may be maturing or know what you want out of the relationship and the other person doesn't. It is usually the guy that is not mature enough. Boys usually mature slower than girls anyway.
I wis boys could be more like girls, as far as sensitiviy goes. They do get hurt, but they don't react like girls. Girls are very emotional creatures. In my opinion, I wish I was not so emotional and don't get attached to people. That is with any relationship I have.
Having feelings sucks and I'll be honest I feel like this now. I wish I didn't. I want to be like forget you! Well that is me being in my feelings this week!

Manifesto of Fed Up Faithful Lovers

Love is a beautiful thing. Staying in one committed, confirmed, and monogamous relationship is a true accomplishment. This is what people like me long for. As with any good thing, there are always ways to ruin it. In this case, there are a group of people who ruin it and they are called Cheaters. A cheater is a person who acts dishonestly, deceives, or defrauds. They usually will have other partners in a relationship. This shows people like us, Faithful Lovers Association or FLA, the lack of respect or love for someone you claim to love. If a person is completely committed, there should be no reason to cheat. Which is why our motto is: “Stay faithful or stay single!”

We, Faithful Lovers Association, believe that cheating has to stop. Cheaters have been around for ages and they have ruined our society, not only as in relationships, but all other aspects of life. There are way too many damaged hearts out there, because of this ruthless, careless act. We believe this problem needs to be eliminated. It is an issue that hurts the hearts of men and women alike. It affects a person’s future relationships and mental and physical health. For example, in future relationships it could cause major trust issues. Without trust in a relationship there is nothing. Mentally, it could cause a person to be so hurt by the cheater that they may want to commit suicide. Physically, a person may contract a sexually transmitted disease or the person may start eating less because of depression. These are reasons why we, Faithful Lovers Association, strive to find all faithful lovers and become a unified front. We want our own society, where being faithful, trusting, and loving are our only options. 

 As might be expected of a cheater, they have numerous excuses. Since every cheater is different, I’ll give you three reasons that I have heard from cheaters myself and my opinion against them. First of all, the cheaters who cheat instead of breaking up with the person. I understand if you have been in a relationship for a while, but that still does not give you a right to crush someone’s feelings, especially if they are being faithful to you and treating you right. Just simply break up. If you truly love someone, you need to let them go. If you do not, you should not have been with them in the first place.

 Secondly, a person cheats often because they feel unloved or unwanted. Most people can tell when they are not wanted. Obviously, the other lover is making them feel better. In that case, why would you still be with someone who makes you feel neglected? Just break up and be with the other person instead of cheating.

Lastly, the cheaters who want to be in a relationship with two people just for the hell of it. It is like living a double life, neither person even knows about each other. Some cheaters sincerely get a thrill out of having two different lovers. It was explained to me by a cheater that the lover you have been with the longest is like home, and the other lover is like a vacation spot. Either way you put it, this is an outrageous idea! Instead of having just one broken heart, you now have two devastated souls. They both were played like a Xbox 360.

For the reason above, the faithful partner is not the only one who hurts. This deceiving act affects a person’s family and friends. They never want to see their family or friend hurt. This also affects the mental and physical aspect and all relationships the future holds for that person. Think about it like this, if I dropped a porcelain heart on the ground and it shattered into one-hundred pieces, I probably would not be able to put every single piece back together. Now, there is a lost piece that will never be found again. It is just like that every time someone gets cheated on. Their heart is broken, and they will never be the same.

We, FLA, want to take a stand by suggesting a few solutions. First, for the benefit of our society, we will have cheater educational classes. These classes will be held once a week and will teach college students the signs of a cheater, all the reasons why they cheat, and how to catch a cheater. For any civilian who believes they are being cheated on, they have the right to file a police report. The cheater must then, by law, take a lie detector test, at the many lie detector clinics. In addition to the lie detector test, there will also be counseling for the cheaters and the victims. If the cheater fails the test, they must register as a Faithless Offender. Any curious civilian can go to the lie detector clinic website, enter the person’s first and last name, and Boom! There are the results of the test and the person they cheated with. By doing this, these cheaters will forever shamed and humiliated for their actions. This will greatly affect any of their future relationships, just like their victims. Karma is true b*$#*!

These rules we, FLA, believe will help our elite society. The satisfaction of knowing that less hearts will be broken and true love will flourish is truly our motivation. This is why we will always stand by our motto:

 

"Stay faithful or stay single."

A Little Preview to my Manifesto next week.

Right now, I am working on my manifesto. This is so hard, because I had never heard of a manifesto until this past week. Only good thing about it is we get to pick our own topic. Since it had to be related to the theme of my blog, I chose cheating. I have cheated before, but that is because I was young. I didn't know any better. Now, relationships are starting to get serious and it is crazy how many people cheat and different reasons they do. You can be getting cheated on and not even know it. When I post my manifesto next week, please don't laugh! It is corny, but I am really working hard on it. I put a lot of thought into it. I also wanted to talk about when you not with somebody, like boyfriend and girlfriend, but do all the "bf/gf" things. I mean what is acceptable when this happens? I need comments, because it is confusing.